We have no right of exposing anyone’s sins or faults. In fact, our religious responsibility is to cover these mistakes.
“Whosoever covers (the sins of) a Muslim, Allah covers (his sins) on the Day of Judgment.” (Bukhari)
If we expose a person’s hidden sins, we might open a door of tribulations for them, their families, ourselves, our families, and the entire ummah. Who knows where it may lead?
Prophet SAW said, “Fitnah is asleep; may the curse of Allah be upon the one who wakes it up.” (Jami as-Sagheer)
Is the cheap thrill of gossiping, or our hatred for someone to want to pull them down worth invoking the curse of Allah upon us and our families?
WHO GAVE US THE RIGHT?
Islam teaches humility, compassion and respect for all living things. We have no right to enter our own houses from the back without announcement, then what do you think about prying into other’s private matters, even if they are our family members?
Islam does not give parents or spouses any right to interrogate and investigate the lives of their spouses and children. In fact, it teaches us that even if the children or spouses share with us a sin they have committed or a mistake they have made, we tell them to make tawba and istighfar, and keep the matter concealed.
Think about the alternative! If we reveal, the fitnah will destroy my child or my spouse’s reputation, and along with it tarnish the reputation of the rest of the family, and Islam.
This is called wisdom. This is being the key of goodness and the lock of evil.
Respect the sutra (cover) Allah has given them. Don’t uncover their faults and don’t undress them in public when their Lord has kept them covered.
Besides, what kind of hard hearted person would destroy their own spouse or child’s reputation and future prospects just to satisfy their own ego and anger? And if a person’s own family is not safe from his evil, what do you think about the rest of the society? If the person has no compassion for his own children, do you think they can be entrusted with your secrets and be compassionate enough to give you the right advice?
There are numerous examples in Islamic history of people who were pathetic sinners and Allah SWT raised them to the level of noble scholars and worshippers. Who are we to judge anyone? How do we know Allah SWT will not forgive them and elevate their status? Who gives us the right to be arrogant and look down on someone who may or may-not have committed a sin? Allah forgives people and conceals their sins, whereas we are ready to debase anyone even if they are struggling to uplift the deen of Allah SWT. It is almost like we are challenging Allah SWT and His Sunnah by doing the opposite!
Those who spread tales and those who support them will receive the wrath of Allah SWT, both in this life and the next. These are acts of shaytaan, not of believers following Allah and his Prophet SAW.
There are two kinds of people in the world. Those who try to spread goodness and those who try to spread evil. Backbiting, exposing, abusing, and slandering believers are huge sins in the sight of Allah SWT. A person who does that will be considered a dhalim (oppressor) in the eyes of Allah SWT, no matter how noble they try to make their motives.
We cannot use the deen of Allah SWT to label our evil acts. No one has given us the right to do so. We cannot interrogate, pry, spy, abuse, control, all in the name of ‘teaching’, ‘spreading good’, and ‘preventing evil.’ If we do that, we teach our families to be liar, hypocrite, two-faced and manipulative.
WHY DID ALLAH SWT ALLOW ME TO FIND OUT?
Why did Allah SWT allow me to find out about another person’s secret, sin or mistake?
What does Allah SWT want from me now?
What will I receive from Allah if I conceal the mistake?
What will I receive if I expose the mistake?
Anything that happens to us is a trial. It is Allah SWT’s way of testing whether I will act according to the teachings of Islam, or follow my nafs.
We are not supposed to be impulsive reactionaries who can be inflamed by any news and behave as we see fit. We are supposed to be Muslims and Islam gives us guidelines to follow. Questioning ourselves as mentioned above is a way of governing our thoughts and actions.
In this situation, what does Allah SWT want from me?
We believe the nucleus of a nation is the family. The success of a nation depends on the strength of its families. You develop a family, you develop a nation and we hope to do just that!